Showing posts with label #nextgenerationsahm. Show all posts
Showing posts with label #nextgenerationsahm. Show all posts

Wednesday, July 5, 2017

Clean Your Mouth the Green Way with Himalaya



Clean Your Mouth the Green Way with Himalaya
Written By Renee Arbia



Sponsored By Himalaya Botanique Toothpaste and Moms Meet
I received this product for free from Moms Meet (www.momsmeet.com) to use and post my honest opinions. Compensation for this post was provided and this page may contain affiliate links.

I like to consider myself and our family a very green family. We try our best to recycle, reduce and reuse as many things as possible. We try to eat a lot of organic and vegan friendly foods. We even make some of our own soaps, detergents and cleaners. However, some things are harder to switch to green living than others. Toothpaste for us is a hard one. My husband and I are very set in our dental hygiene ways. Our five year old son, Xavier uses toothpaste made by natural ingredients, but my husband and I could not find one that we liked the taste of and trusted for our oral hygiene. We are excited to introduce Himalaya Botanique which offers a full line of clinically studied herbal formulations, certified USDA organic single herbs and body care products.



Himalaya Botanique Toothpaste has a great taste and a long lasting flavor. I especially liked that it does not have a bitter after taste like many natural toothpastes. Himalaya uses an herbal formulation that helps to remove plaque, support healthy looking gums, and maintain white teeth. Himalaya Botanique Toothpaste comes in seven varieties; Whitening Complete Care Simply Peppermint, Whitening Complete Care Simply Mint, Compete Care Simply Peppermint, Simply Mint, Simply Cinnamon, Simply Spearmint, and the original Neem and Pomegranate toothpaste. 



All seven varieties are gluten free and free from harmful ingredients like Carrageenan, Fluoride and SLS. Himalaya uses ingredients such as the Neem leaf, pomegranate, Triphala, Xylitol and the Whitening toothpastes use Papain and Bromelain, the enzymes from papaya and pineapple, to remove surface stains.



A week after using the Whitening Complete Care Simply Mint my teeth were much brighter. I liked that it did not increase the sensitivity of my teeth like most whitening products. It was much milder and made my mouth feel refreshed. 



Our entire family loves all the different flavors. It is great to have a real clean mouth that is not cleaned with harmful ingredients. We love the toothpaste and that the Himalaya Botanique company gives back to the community by supporting community health, sustainable farming and environmental responsibility. You can visit www.himalayatoothpaste.com to join Himalaya’s sampling program, where you can receive additional samples and coupons. Himalaya Botanique Toothpaste comes in a nice big tube and is reasonably priced. We were very impressed with this toothpaste and hope that more people will try it out. Himalaya should be the next big name in your bathroom.



You can purchase Himalaya Botanique Toothpaste in any seven varieties from

Amazon  use our special coupon code IHEK9SJC to save 25%

 Or their website www.himalayatoothpaste.com

Himalaya Botanique Toothpaste is also available at your local Whole Foods, Sprouts, Natural Grocers, Vitamin Cottage and small independent health food stores.

Connect with Himalaya online to see their latest products and get exclusive access to discounts and special offers!

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Monday, March 7, 2016

Sponsored: Shielo Restoration Hair Mask



I wrote this post while participating in a campaign and received a gift to thank me for my time. All views and opinions with regard to the products or company itself are my own and were not influenced or reviewed by the company prior to posting. I am disclosing this according to the FTC guidelines.

Sponsored: Shielo Restoration Hair Mask
Written By Renee Arbia




When you are a mom you end up putting everyone else in your life before yourself. Even though I do value myself and try to have “me-time” it can be hard. However, what I always try to do is take care of myself in the best way I can. Lately, we have been going much greener on everything we use in the house. Greener is better for the environment and for our health, plus we have found most of the time it ends up cheaper than the alternative. One area it can be tricky to find green products in is the cosmetics area. I am getting better at a green skincare regime, but as far as hair I have been lacking. I have been having a hard time finding hair products that happen to be green and eco-friendly. Then, I was introduced to Shielo. Since I have found Shielo, my hair has never looked or felt better and I am so happy with the wonderful company that they are.

Shielo is a small company based in New York City. Their philosophy is to create products with integrity and to ensure that they preserve the future well-being of our environment. Shielo has been around since 2001 and all of their products are made from plant botanicals. They use local farms and ingredients. All of their plants are grown without the use of synthetic pesticides or chemicals. There are no parabens, formaldehyde or preservatives. Their ingredients are certified organic by Organic Certifiers in Ventura California. They are against animal cruelty and testing. In fact, all of their products are vegan friendly. Even their packaging is made of HDPE #2 plastics which are recycled and BPA free. Sure to please even the most eco-conscious consumer.



Shielo makes great hair care products for every type of hair. From smoothing, hydration, volume, color protection to leave in conditioners there is something for every hair type. Products are in large bottles and a little product goes a long way. No more squeezing half a bottle of conditioner for your long hair, with Shielo you can get a small nickel size and you are on your way. They also offer skincare for your complexion that is extremely gentle and all natural.



I first tried out their Restoration Hair Oil which is now part of my regular routine. It makes my hair smooth and shiny and just a dime size amount goes a very long way. Recently, I was introduced to their Restoration Hair Mask. What is so great about their Restoration Hair Mask is that it comes in a 4 ounce container and you need only a little to go a long way. Also, you apply it to clean; wet hair and you only have to leave it on for about five minutes and then rinse out. It works perfectly in the shower. Most masks you have to leave on for fifteen minutes and then rinse, making it hard to have it in your routine. Shielo’s Restoration Hair Mask is designed to be used once a week or twice a week if you have very damaged hair and thanks to their natural ingredients it is completely safe to use on colored or processed hair. The Restoration Hair Mask is an intensive treatment for hair that restores elasticity, freshness and suppleness to dry, chemically treated or damaged hair. The mask instantly repairs to make hair look fresh, moisturized and free flowing. It is a concentrated formula of organic ingredients, complex peptides and highly moisturizing agents that make hair manageable and beautiful. Let’s just say this is now a part of my hair routine as well and it has made my hair so much more manageable and easy to take care of so I can focus on more important things like my family without feeling like I sacrifice myself.

Be sure to treat yourself with a hair care product that reflects real values and makes your hair sparkle like your personality. You can purchase Shielo products from their website Shielo.com

#sponsored, #haircare, #Shielo, #NextGenerationSAHM

Monday, November 30, 2015

Sponsored: Green Your Hair with Shielo



I wrote this post while participating in a campaign and received a gift to thank me for my time. All views and opinions with regard to the products or company itself are my own and were not influenced or reviewed by the company prior to posting. I am disclosing this according to the FTC guidelines.

Green Your Hair with Shielo
Written By Renee Arbia

We have been trying to slowly incorporate more green products into our lives. With the holiday season quickly approaching, it is important to look our best and give gifts that make an impact. You not just want the receiver to love and appreciate the gift, but it is important to buy from your country and from small family friendly businesses that want to make the world a better place for us all.


I have been growing out my hair to be very long. I have been having a hard time finding hair products that happen to be green and eco-friendly. Then, I was introduced to Shielo.

Shielo is a small company based in New York City. Their philosophy is to create products with integrity and to ensure that they preserve the future well-being of our environment. Shielo has been around since 2001 and all of their products are made from plant botanicals. They use local farms and ingredients. All of their plants are grown without the use of synthetic pesticides or chemicals. There are no parabens, formaldehyde or preservatives. Their ingredients are certified organic by Organic Certifiers in Ventura California. They are against animal cruelty and testing. In fact, all of their products are vegan friendly. Even their packaging is made of HDPE #2 plastics which are recycled and BPA free. Sure to please even the most eco-conscious consumer.




Shielo makes great hair care products for every type of hair. From smoothing, hydration, volume, color protection to leave in conditioners there is something for every hair type. Products are in large bottles and a little product goes a long way. No more squeezing half a bottle of conditioner for your long hair, with Shielo you can get a small nickel size and you are on your way. They also offer skincare for your complexion that is extremely gentle and all natural.



I am a big fan of the Shielo Shine Restoration Oil. I barely need a dime size amount to smooth on my hair and make it shine like never before. It also makes a great Christmas stocking stuffer.



Be sure to treat the one you love this year with a hair care product that reflects her values as a person and makes her hair sparkle like her personality. You can purchase Shielo products from their website Shielo.com

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Friday, September 25, 2015

Happy Autumn Friday Faves



The Autumn is my absolute favorite season of the year. My favorite holidays are in the fall. I love the weather, especially here in the south, it is a late summer and early type of fall that is perfect for being outside. We are always celebrating and having a lot of fun with friends and family, and having them over. Baking is something I tend to do a lot more of in the fall. With the weather cooler it is much more fun to turn the oven on. We also love to get into reading more in the fall. Since it now will start getting darker earlier and earlier it is good to have some activities already starting when it is too dark to play outside. What are some of your favorite things about the fall?

Wishing all of you a wonderful weekend filled with fun, love and laughter.

In a baking mood try out these Peanut Butter Chocolate Chip Cookies or if you really want to indulge make this, Cocoa Cake with Chocolate Buttercream Frosting.

How did you celebrate the beginning of Fall? Remembering Xavier's First Mabon!

My favorite muffins of all time are fantastic for you, make some Banana Oatmeal Muffins for your breakfast.

Teach your children the importance of being thankful by Saying Grace. 

Need some warm, delicious and very cheap and easy to make, it's easy to keep these ingredients on hand for some delicious Easy Tuna Noodle Casserole.

Check out your local Library for some good reads. We love Two Bobbies and My First Book Series By Sophie Helenek. 

Happy Fall!

#NextGenerationSAHM, #FridayFaves
#FallFavorites
 

Wednesday, September 23, 2015

Chick-Fil-A Mom Panel 2015-2016




I am proud to announce that I have been chosen to participate on the Chick-Fil-A Mom Panel for the 2015-2016 year. We will have a fun year of keeping you up to date on the latest promotions at Chick-Fil-A as well as anything fun that is happening in this area!



We tested out their new frozen lemonade and it was approved by the whole family. My son, Xavier loved it! He keeps saying "Do you like frozen lemonade Mommy? I love frozen lemonade!"





So be sure to check out the new frozen lemonade at your local Chick-Fil-A and check back here for all the Chick-Fil-A fun throughout the year!



Special thanks to Chick-Fil-A!

#ChickFilAMoms, #nextgenerationsahm

Tuesday, September 22, 2015

Leukemia & Lymphoma Awareness Month



Leukemia & Lymphoma Awareness Month
Written By Renee Arbia



You may have noticed by now, that September is Blood Cancer Awareness Month. The Leukemia & Lymphoma Society usually will hold events in your area all month long as a fundraiser and get donations for research and for treatments for different blood cancers. According to the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society approximately every 3 minutes one person in the United States is diagnosed with a blood cancer. Approximately every 10 minutes, one person in the United States dies from blood cancer. That ends up being 152 dying a day (6 people an hour) from a blood cancer.

Most of the donated money to blood cancers go to fund research. There is little known about blood cancers. Many forms of blood cancer have no known cause or cure. The survival rate for many is dire and treatments that we have can only treat symptoms.

My mother passed away from Leukemia in 2009. She was diagnosed and given three months. She lived a year. Without any of the treatments we would not have had her as long as we did. Blood Cancers are hard to treat because they can cause multiple problems in the human body. Every organ has blood in it. Imagine if your blood was carrying cancer within it, and attacking itself, and every organ it comes into contact with, that is what blood cancer, essentially does. My mom received countless blood transfusions, platelet transfusions, plasmapheresis, chemo therapy, a stem cell transplant and an experimental drug treatment. Yet, it none of it, saved her life.

When I would visit my mom in the hospital her floor was always sealed due to contamination. Patient rooms are double-door locked and the entire floor area is sealed for the patients’ protection due to their immune systems so badly weakened. While I was visiting my mom in the hospital I saw so many that were sick with blood cancer. The elderly, the babies, the children, the college students, there were people of every race, shape, size, and age. Blood Cancer knows no barriers. I watched a mom kiss a glass door because her two small daughters and husband were on the other side and she was unable to kiss them good night. This was not, my mom, this mom was very young, her children were young, yet, I saw children in the blood cancer area being treated. Blood cancer does not care about age or who you are.

Patience Brewster is one mom who is working hard to make sure that Blood Cancer research is being done. You may have heard of Patience Brewster, she is an artist and designer of handmade and handcrafted unique gifts and ornaments. It may seem an odd combination, a Christmas ornament company that is highly concerned about blood cancers. However, they have worked very closely with the LLS (Leukemia & Lymphoma Society) ever since her son, Herm, was diagnosed with stage 4 Hodgkin's Lymphoma back in 2002. Despite his illness, Herm worked with the company as he fought this disease with tenacity, and unwavering diligence until 2005 when he left this world at age 26.

In his honor, his family started the Holland C Gregg IV Research Fund. Patience Brewster, his mother, designs a special ornament every year to raise research funding toward a cure for these cancers. Their hope is that, you will join us in raising awareness of blood cancers and bringing awareness to the great need for research into
better treatments for Leukemia and Lymphoma.

They created the Holland C. Greg IV Research Fund, a Leukemia and Lymphoma Society Fun in her son’s name. This fund specifically funds the advances in immunotherapy being done by Catherine Bollard at Children’s Hospital in D.C. and Baylor University in Austin, Texas under Helen Hissup. All proceeds go DIRECTLY to research. The research team they have met and had first hand experience with. The research team is working on developing less traumatic and more effective therapies for blood cancers, and finding treatments for other ailments along the way.

Every year Patience Brewster designs a new ornament for the purpose of raising money and awareness. This year it is, Huck, the Woodland Raccoon. Her son’s favorite animal was a raccoon, and one of his many nicknames was Huck. You can donate $1, $5, $10 or more. Every little bit helps.



To find out more about Patience Brewster and the Holland C. Greg IV Research Fund, or to purchase an adorable Raccoon Christmas Ornament that goes to the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society or to donate to the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society or the Holland C. Greg IV Research Fund, visit Patience’s Blog (PatienceBrewster.com) about Blood Cancer Awareness and the story of her family!

Please share this with your friends and family to spread awareness for blood cancers this month! Thank you for your help!

#Leukemiaandlymphoma, #bloodcancerawarenessmonth, #patiencebrewster, #Huckthewoodlandraccoon, #nextgenerationsahm, #nextgenerationsahmgivingback, #donate

Monday, September 21, 2015

Sponsored: Premama Drink Your Prenatal Vitamins

I wrote this post while participating in a campaign  and received a gift and or payment to thank me for my time. All views and opinions with regard to the products or company itself are my own and were not influenced nor reviewed by the company prior to posting. I am disclosing this according to the FTC guidelines.

Sponsored  By Premama
Written By Renee Arbia




When you decide to expand your family the first thing you need to do is make sure you are healthy. Going to the doctor, eating healthy and exercising are very important. It is also important to start taking vitamins to help yourself get all the nutrition that you may need. Premama makes vitamins for your complete maternity wellness.

Premama wants to be with you in every step of your maternity journey. Premama makes vitamins for every stage of your maternal wellness. With Fertility, Essentials, Essentials Plus and Lactation vitamins, you will always have the nutrients your body needs to stay healthy.

Premama not only makes the vitamins for every step of your maternity care, but also makes vitamins you get to drink. Premama has a line of natural powdered supplements formulated to support preconception through post natal nutritional needs, concerns and conditions. All their formulas are pill-free, drink mix solutions that contain high-quality, clinically-studied and physician-approved ingredients that are designed to blend seamlessly with liquids, and soft foods. You simply mix and enjoy.



I was able to test out the Premama Essentials Plus DHA. I love how it is individually wrapped so it is easy to bring with you. You can mix Premama Essentials Plus DHA with at least 12 ounces of water or with non-carbonated, flavored liquids such as juice or smoothies. The citrus powdered formula tastes similar to most drinkable vitamins. I found it was best in a big glass of orange juice or a smoothie. The citrus taste of the powder is easy to hide in anything that has some flavor to it. By drinking your vitamins they digest easily and fast.

All of the Premama vitamins are Gluten- Free, Non-GMO and Vegetarian approved. The Premama Essentials Plus DHA are a prenatal vitamin with the added benefits of vegetarian DHA. They are formulated with over 165mg of fatty acids, including Life’s DHA and ALA to support baby’s brain and eye development. It also includes Choline to further help reduce the risk of neural tube defects.



Each box of Premama drinkable vitamins is made differently to be sure to get you the vitamins that you need, when you need them. Swallowing horse pills can be hard to do first thing in the morning. Drinking your vitamins is a great way to get all your nutrients in a safe and “easy on the stomach” way. Pick up your Premama vitamins now available at CVS, Amazon, Target and Buy Buy Baby!

Premama Vitamins are available in Premama Fertility, Premama Essentials, Premama Essentials + DHA, and Premama Lactation.



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Friday, September 18, 2015

Baby Friday Faves



To end Baby week we are, of course, having a Baby Friday Faves! Check out some of our favorite advice, inspiration, recipes and gear!

Wishing you all a great weekend full of fun, love and laughter!

Baby Friday Faves

Try to start your newborn off on the right foot if you can be sure you read Everything You Need, and Need to Know, About Breastfeeding.

Be sure to return these Top 5 Most Unnecessary Baby Items.

Make sure you have the awesome Diaper Champ!

Cook up your own baby food by making some Roasted Banana Puree.

When you become a parent you find many different ways of Taking The Pain Away.

I know we could not live without and still use our Nosefrida Snotsucker!

Understand your baby before they can talk with Baby Sign Language.

You do not have to listen to what every one says, Debunking Old Wives Tales.

The lowdown on when to know when your sweetie is teething with, Teething Troubles.

Get your cutie into a good Sleep Routine with the Cloud B Sleep Sheep!




 

Tuesday, September 15, 2015

Sponsored: New Products for Newborns 2015




 I wrote this post while participating in a campaign by Tomoson and received a gift and or payment to thank me for my time. All views and opinions with regard to the products or company itself are my own and were not influenced or reviewed by the company prior to posting. I am disclosing this according to the FTC guidelines.



Sponsored: New Products for Newborns
Written By Renee Arbia



September is not just the start of the fall season, but it is also a very popular month to give birth. It usually is in the top three, rotating a little each year between being the most popular month along with June and August. With school in session I am able to visit a lot of new moms and see a lot of newborns and interact with moms and babies. What I think is awesome, are all the new products that are now out. In only three years since I had my son there are already some great new products on the market for babies. Here are two that are extremely popular and after testing, letting other moms test, washing, dirtying, tugging, more borrowing and testing they not only met Next Generation Stay At Home Mom approval, but are very popular to many other parents who have them or tried them out.



Two of the biggest things that moms of 2015 started using more are, ring sling baby carriers, and muslin baby blankets. These are two products that not only do moms use; they typically named these as “life savers” in the parenting world. The next time you, go to a baby shower, visit a new mom, register for a baby shower (Check out our sponsor, Target for babyregistries), or purchasing for your baby, be sure to get a ring sling and a pack of muslin baby blankets.

Most parents of this generation know how important baby wearing is and how wonderful it is to try to wear your baby. Baby wearing is great for bonding, breastfeeding, hands free snuggles, getting things done and settling your baby. Most of the time the problem is not that we do not WANT to wear our babies it is that we cannot find a comfortable way to do so that is also easy to use, durable and safe.



Mamaway, an Australian company has brought back the baby ring sling style that was popular in the early 2000s where you would have a sling to carry your baby in. The problem with sling carriers was that you were carrying baby lying down on your hip. The new way to carry your baby is facing you inward, in a seated position. It should almost look like your baby is seated in a mini seat in front of you. This is the best and safest position to carry baby. (According to the American Academy of Pediatrics) Newborns have their head supported, and older babies can sit with their head out of the sling to look around. The ring sling also allows you to put baby securely on your hip.



The Mamaway Ring Sling Baby Carrier takes the ease of having only the one piece cloth  type carrier and adds a durable Nylon ring (tested to hold a toddler) for guaranteed support so that you do not have to rely solely on your knot tying abilities. The lightweight fabric is 100% cotton, machine washable and dries quickly while it is hanging. (Must hang dry)



I especially loved the sewn in pocket for storage. Folding it into it is a little challenging, but in a pinch you can just stuff it in the pocket and deal with it later. The Mamaway Ring Sling Baby Carrier is one size fits all and fully adjustable. It works for everyone size Petite to Plus. It is easy to use and adjust. Mamaway has some great videos on their website that walk you through exactly how to use it their ring sling carrier. It is great for babies all the way through the toddler age. I love how it is easy to adjust, it holds a lot of weight, but is still a breathable, lightweight fabric. The fabric also wipes clean depending on the spill.

Wearing your baby is important for their development and your sanity. Parents know the amazing benefits of wearing their baby, they just give up trying to find the right carrier for them. Get the Mamaway Ring SlingBaby Carrier for the new parents in your life.



Muslin Cotton is a very pure and gentle type of cotton that is very breathable and soft, which makes it perfect for swaddling a baby. Muslin cotton blankets are the new “receiving blanket” of baby showers. What once was a thick cotton blend that was a little bit bigger than a hand towel type of receiving blanket has been replaced by these large muslin cotton swaddling blankets. More and more new moms are registering for muslin cotton baby blankets and it is easy to see why they love them so much.

Unlike the old receiving blanket muslin cotton blankets typically come in a pack of three and are huge, 48 x 48” to be exact. The reason they are bigger is so that you can properly swaddle your baby with some to spare. The muslin cotton is more breathable so it is perfectly safe and gentle for sensitive skin.



Not only are muslin cotton blankets super soft and cuddly they are very fashionable, right now in the world of parenting. These, Muslin Cotton Swaddle Blankets come in Chevron, Cross and Arrow patterns in the three-pack packaging. When my son was born only three years ago, we had swaddle blankets and receiving blankets. The receiving blankets we did not use very much, they were too small to lie on the floor so he could play on them, and they were too small to swaddle him in, I basically used them as extra burp cloths. The muslin cotton blankets are lighter, bigger, easy to use for swaddling, playing, and easier to clean!



I love when they improve on products that we know and love. It is amazing to see the parenting industry really listen to real parents and make more products easy for us to use. After all parents should be focused on the most important job of all, snuggling their new baby!

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Monday, September 14, 2015

Repost: How I Learned To Love My Baby



September is not just back to school time. Believe it or not, September is a very popular month to give birth in. Many babies are born in September. They are the adorable end of summer babies and beginning of Fall newborns. I have had the pleasure of meeting a lot of newborns of friends and family lately which has been so sweet. I love being around babies and I enjoy talking to the moms and seeing what is working for them and what is not.

This week we have some sponsors who have some awesome new baby items to offer. I find it amazing that in the short three years since I have had my son, so many new baby items and trends are already out. I was amazed and astounded by some of the things. However, I took big note of a couple of my favorites that I especially remember would have been great when I had my son, and are of huge help and popular with many new moms today.

To kick off our week of baby fun; here is a post I wrote for Moms Magazine.com about how I came to love my son. Some moms are lucky and fall head over heels in love with their children the moment they are put in their arms. I had a little harder time with that at first, and this is a beautiful story that I wrote about...


How I Learned To Love My Baby
Written By Renee Arbia
First Published by MomsMagazine.com "How I Learned To Love My Baby" By Renee Arbia




I was excited to get pregnant. We had been in the “trying for a child” phase of our relationship, and we were really excited when the test came back positive.

Pregnancy definitely did not suit me well. I gained over fifty pounds of weight; I claim I was never informed I would be perpetually hungry for nine months. I also got every single symptom that you can possibly get while you are pregnant. I would go to the doctor and say I have this cramp/rash/thing and they would say “yes, that is common with pregnancies”. This would be fine if you had just one or two of the symptoms, but not all of them. Not to mention, I never got that beautiful pregnancy “glow” that everyone says you have. My husband and I even joke that the only “glow” I had was the amount of white headed acne I had on my face. However, I endured it all; I did soberly, strongly, like most women for nine months (with even a week of bed rest). All because I knew I would have a beautiful baby that I would love.



That was the problem “WOULD LOVE”. I did not love the baby inside of me. I simply felt I did not know it. I liked it a lot, and cared for it, as you would a young being. Perhaps it was because we kept the sex of the baby a secret, or perhaps it was because having a baby scared me a lot, due to the fact that my own mother had passed away a few years earlier. However, wanting to have a child, I endured, like all women do. I just knew I would see my baby and I would fall in love.

Three days after my due date, and fourteen hours of labor later, we had a beautiful eight pound baby boy. The birth was a flash of an earthquake in my stomach in the living room, a crazy car ride to the hospital, nice epidural man, waking up to pressure, husband waking up to baby coming, pushing, pushing, pushing, sick of pushing, my husband screaming “It’s a boy. Renee it’s a boy!” and Xavier was placed on my chest and I looked into his eyes. I even said “Hi buddy”, but I was not in love. I quite frankly was exhausted and I was worried that Xavier was tired as well, and that we really should be wrapped in a blanket, or something, and wondering what would be happening next to us?




A lot happened in the hospital as I ended up having some complications after the birth. I attributed us not really bonding all that well at first to just not being home together as a family. When we finally got home it was wonderful at first being greeted by our family and friends. A couple days after they left I had a hard time home with Xavier. I was extremely exhausted due to the blood loss. I also got my milk in extremely late and he had problems latching. I finally decided to start pumping, as well as try to get him to feed off of me to get my milk really coming in.  I was so sure breastfeeding would bond us, but no matter how many different ways I tried it never worked. So I pumped and would try to feed him myself. I had an even harder time bonding with him, I felt like all I did was tend and care for him and I never got one smile, one blink, one nod, nothing. He mostly would cry around me.



As a stay at home mom I would have Xavier over eight hours a day, so I was determined to try to find a way to bond with this baby, that I thought would be so easy to love. I was actually jealous of my husband because you could just see his love for Xavier, his face would light up, and he would think Xavier was incredible. You could just see the love in his eyes.  I wanted to look at Xavier like that, but when I looked at Xavier all I could think was yes, Xavier’s cute, but he eats a lot, and poops a lot, and cries a lot. I could not see much else.



When Xavier was a couple of weeks old I started reading board books to him. I started a nap routine with him where we would sit in the rocking chair together read a book, he would nurse or have a bottle which ever was working at that time, and then I would put him down for sleep.

One day when Xavier was a month old, I took him to the rocking chair for his nap. A nap that I needed him to take, probably much more than he needed. I grabbed one of his favorite books (The Very Hungry Caterpillar) from the shelf, and cuddled him in the rocking chair, and started reading to him, and as I was reading I looked down at him, and I noticed that he was looking up at me, smiling. Tears ran down my eyes, as I hugged him, and said “You do love me! I love you too!” I finally felt it, that unconditional, crazy, protective, instinctual, miraculous motherly love that only a mother knows.


Perhaps for some of us we do not find love right away. Some of us prefer to get to know each other before we commit our hearts to each other. So just in case we are a little slower to jump, do not think we will not, for when we do, we jump with both feet. I never doubted that I would fall in love with my son. It was just a matter of getting to know each other. Being a mom is not easy. It is something that you must take day by day. Every mom will fall in love with her child. A mother’s love has been proven time and time again to be instinctual and forever binding. I know that when I read to Xavier every night when he goes to sleep and he still looks up at me with a smile almost three years later, that I am incredibly lucky to be able to call one of my loves, my son.




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