I am always humbled by the amount of people who tell me how strong I am all the time. It is hard to feel strong, in fact every night I pray for strength, yet apparently it is something people think I possess. After a long month of medical issues (Read: Epilepsy Testing) among other things, I have realized that I am a very strong person, but it is not only myself. The strength has always been inside of me I just never learned to use it and to harness it properly.
You see everyone is strong. You just may not know it. It's not hard to find your inner strength and once you find it you will be surprised at how much easier life gets, how much happier you are and how much you can really accomplish.
If you are a parent you need strength everyday and you need to know how to help your children to find their inner strength. Imagine all that your children can accomplish if they realize just how strong they are and what they are capable of at a young age.
I am no expert, but here is what I have personally learned by reading and working on finding my inner strength and I hope these tips help you to find your inner strength, because there is a wonderfully magical world out there that you are missing by not using the inner strength you possess within yourself.
12 WAYS TO BRING OUT YOUR INNER STRENGTH
1) Do not be embarrassed to be who you really are.
So many times we hide ourselves by what we think people want to see. We put on a facade of our lives. Then, when something bad happens people are floored because you seemed so fine on the outside. Why must we pretend to be strong? You are strong already. Do not be afraid to put your heart on your sleeve. If people see the real you they are more likely to respond positively to you. Remember you already have strength so stop covering yourself up and when someone talks to you tell them what is really going on in your life. Tell them the good and the bad, do not be ashamed of anything. You have nothing to be embarrassed or ashamed of no matter who you are.
2) Speak your mind.
Of course, etiquette still applies here. Do not tell your friend that the new dress she just bought really does make her look fat. Instead find the positive and speak it. Too many times we keep our mouths quiet because we are afraid of offending someone. Yet, it's these things that we do not say that plague us the most. If you have a problem, say what it is, just use a nicer way of putting it. If someone if bugging you say something. If you believe in a cause and someone just slammed it to your face, speak up. Remember, though when you speak up that this does not mean you can be rude, have respect for who you are speaking your mind to. The next time you want to speak up, think about how you would feel if it was being said to you and if you are alright with it, speak your mind!
3) Follow your dreams no matter how crazy they seem.
This is your life. You write your own story. How do you want to live it? Too many times we do not follow our dreams because they are not practical or you try, and get shot down and give up. We let life get in the way. You figure your dream does not pay the bills. You are wrong. YOU ARE IN THE WAY! I do not care if you are a 60 year old who wants to be a dancer. GO DO IT! You probably can say "well I won't make any money at it". Is that why you want to be a dancer? Chances are no, you want to be a dancer because you love it. So find a dance class and dance, you never know what could happen. Stop making excuses and getting in your own way. I realize we have to pay bills and run our lives, but what kind of life are you living if you are not following your hearts true dream? Start small first and keep at it. If you love it you will be surprised how far dreams can take you if you let them.
4) Get rid of negative people in your life.
This may seem harsh and hard to do, but really it is not. You know who negative people are. You groan when they call, you complain when you have to see or be around them and when you finally are around them you end up feeling worse than you did before. YOU DO NOT NEED THIS PERSON. Negative people are too lost in their own lives to ever see the light of helping others through positivity. No matter how much you try you may never change them, they need to figure out how to find their inner strength on their own. No reason to be rude to them, just be busy a lot for a while and let things drift. When you do see them just wish them well and be on your way do not let their negativity get to you. If it is a family member or person you cannot avoid, TRY. Try to avoid as much as possible and when you are stuck with them, "kill them with kindness and positivity". If they bring up something negative either turn it into a positive or change the subject to something positive. If that is too hard, find a reason to excuse yourself. Sometimes just going to the bathroom can change the negativity and gives you time to think of a really good positive story or conversation you can start when you get back.
5) Surround yourself with only positive people.
Now that you got rid of all of the negative people in your life, you have more room to invite positive people in your life. You will also find that they will find you also. They will pick up on your new positive appeal and realize you have no more negative people in your life. I know many positive people who avoid a particular person because of the people they surround themselves with. When you do bring positive people in your life, remember they are attracted to your positivity. Do not bring them down with negativity. It is alright if you are having a bad day but remember that they may be having a great day and do not ruin theirs, instead let them lift you up, as they can usually easily do this for you. Keep conversations and activities light at first. People who are very positive do not jump into friendships fast as they are leery of being pulled into negative drama. However, once you have a few positive good friends in your life you will see it is much easier to bring in more and they will be there for you when you really need to be lifted up.
6) Be grateful for what you do have.
Stop talking endlessly about what you do NOT have. Instead be grateful for what you do have. Everyone in the world right now is having a tough time with something. There is always someone who is worse off than you are. Instead of always harping on what you do not have be grateful for the things and people you do have in your life that make you happy.
7) Be polite
You would think this is easy, but you would be surprised how many people are not polite at all. Do not rudely comment on people. Always say please, thank you, and your welcome. Open doors for people, give up your seat for the older person, the pregnant lady or the disabled person. Let someone in line ahead of you whether in the store or in your car. Say excuse me for passing gas, leaving a room or even if you must check something on your phone. Common courtesy goes a long way. Do not force people onto your views. A big rule is you do not talk politics or religion with those you care about. If they start talking about politics and religion just quiet it with that phrase and you can always walk away with a clear mind.
8) Improve yourself
Everyone has something they would like to improve on. Whether it is the weight you always wanted to lose, a subject you always wanted to learn or something you have always wanted to do. The biggest way to find your inner strength is to get to the YOU that you want to be. Stop making excuses, I am sure you can find many, but you owe it to yourself to improve on what you do not like. A person is never born a perfect finished product. You change and grow and improve yourself along with that growth. Also, take care of yourself, eat better, exercise, expand your mind, expand your views, try new things the lists are endless. Whether you like it or not you are stuck with yourself. Why not try making yourself proud for once?
9) Find a hobby you love that is an outlet for you
Everyone needs a way to blow off steam, get to their happy place, and just plain old enjoy themselves. No, sitting around drinking on your porch and watching television is not a hobby. Everyone loves something. Find it and do it. Take a class, learn from the internet or just start and keep it up. Try to do it at least a couple times a week if not more. This is a great way to vent and to get rid of any negative energy you carried with you during the day. It gets rid of the negative and gives you more positive because it makes you happy. If you get too frustrated with the hobby it is not your outlet, move on and find something else. Your hobby should bring you peace. I highly recommend anything Fine Art related painting, dancing, playing music, sculpting, drawing, coloring, gardening, crafting, wood working, etc. The Fine Arts were created as outlets and are known for helping people through many tough times in their lives.
10) Help others
This is a little similar to #7, but it amazes me how many people think that just because they are in a bad position they cannot help others. What you do not realize is when you are in a bad position it is the best time to help others. It can be anything from smiling every time you pass by someone to waving to people you see, commenting on pictures on the internet or offering an empowering word to someone going through a rough time. These things are so easy, yet so few people actually do them. If you really want to help check out 10 Ways To Give Back.
11) Stop complaining and start thanking
How many times a day do you complain? How many times a day do you say thank you? Your answer should be zero and all the time. That's right, the more you complain the more you are attracting negativity. You sit in traffic and complain, you complain about the lines at stores, you complain about the weather, about your job, your lack of money, your lack of resources. STOP COMPLAINING! I cannot stress this enough. You will never bring out your inner strength and get rid of negativity if you are complaining. Complaining is negativity, and did you know that the more you complain the worse things will get for you? If you do not like a situation, think of a positive side of it or try thinking of just anything positive. SAY THANK YOU ALL THE TIME! Thank you for my car so I can get to where I need to go, that you for this store so I can get what supplies I need, thank you for reminding me to appreciate the nice weather when we have it, thank you for the job I do have, thank you for all the money I have received throughout my life, thank you for my family, thank you for my friends, thank you for my house, thank you for my pets, thank you for my health. I am sure you get the point. The next time you are about to complain, stop, and think of something you can say thank you about instead.
12) Change your way of thinking and you can change your life
Some will find this easy and some of you will not. However, it is the simple cliche that if you think happy and grateful thoughts positivity will come to you effortlessly. Once you are positive you will see the boundless strength that you have within your inner self that truly can create a life that you have always dreamed of. You just cannot be so afraid of change. Changing how you think will change your way of life, but remember change is not bad. In fact you are changing your life for the better and you are changing your life according to your goals and ambitions and what you want around you.
Everyone is capable of finding their inner strength and harnessing it for the life they love! Here are the first twelve steps, now go out there and spread that positivity and love!
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