Thursday, June 19, 2014

Toddler Spanking

 Spanking can be a touchy subject with parents. For the purpose of this article this only applies to Toddler Spanking! I did not write this article but instead read it and would have liked to have written it word for word but someone has already beaten me to it! Too often I see parents spanking children that are way too young. A toddler being spanked is a definite NO! I think this is one of the best articles that explains it best. This is from WhattoExpect.com by Heidi Murkoff and the article is titled 
One Word About Toddler Spanking: Don't
"Decades of research show spanking to be both counterproductive and unsafe"
You can view the article here
    Though spanking might have been passed on from generation to generation in many families, most experts agree that spanking is not only ineffective, it's actually harmful to a child's physical, psychological, and social development. Instead of learning to differentiate between right and wrong, spanking merely teaches a child what will earn a spanking and what won't. What's more, spanking sets a violent example. Studies show that children who are spanked are more likely to use physical force against peers (and later against their own children). Plus, spanking denies children the chance to learn alternative ways of dealing with anger and frustration.
 
Spanking can also lead to serious physical injury, particularly when it happens in the heat of anger. Yet spanking after the anger has cooled may be even worse; it seems more cruelly calculated and, in the long run, less effective in correcting behavior, since the punishment is so far removed from the offense. So what's the bottom line? Don't ever hit your child out of anger.  
 
A few more things to think about:
  • Is a warning smack okay? Some experts (and parents) believe that a smack on the hand or the bottom may be warranted in a dangerous situation to get an important message quickly across to a child too young to understand words — for example, when a tot wanders into the street or continues to approach a hot stove following a stern warning. That's okay, as long as your intention is not to inflict pain but to quickly call a child's attention to the seriousness of the situation. Such a slap should be followed by an explanation: "If you run into the street, a car could hurt you." Once a child shows that she understands what you say, however, physical force is no longer justifiable.
  • When does spanking cross the line? Most parents who hit or spank inflict physical punishment either out of anger or because they believe they are doing it for the child's benefit (and that's usually how they were disciplined). But anything more than a swat on the (diaper-padded) bottom or back of the hand can injure a child, especially a young one. (Like spanking, shaking can cause serious internal damage to an infant or toddler.)  If you ever feel the urge to strike your toddler, get help immediately. Talk to your spouse, a friend, or a therapist, or call your local child-abuse hotline.
  • How do you protect your tot from others?  Even if you'd never dream of spanking or slapping a child, don't assume your child's caregivers all feel the same. Sitters, relatives, teachers, and other caregivers should be instructed never to administer any form of physical punishment. If you ever suspect your child has been hit, act immediately to remedy the situation. 



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2 comments:

  1. Spanking is ABUSE....I feel sorry for your child. The research is VERY clear on spanking, I suggest you look into it.

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  2. Please read the post before commenting. Clearly this article states that I am AGAINST SPANKING. Also if you read my other parenting articles you will find we use a gentle parenting approach technique never violence. I am glad you agree that spanking is not acceptable.

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