As the babies get older you see how different cultures also handle each situation with older children. Each parents' style of parenting is different. They are all unique. Some are definitely better then others, but they all have one thing in common. They are doing the very best that they can. All mothers do the best they can with what sources they have. I do not just mean actual tangible items. I mean some mothers are more intelligent then others, some mothers have more family to help out then others and some mothers learned their mothering skills from a great mother or grandmother.
If you think about it for a moment we all carry the same type of name with the same type of spelling, you are considered a mother, yet you probably have a mom and you may even have a grandma. Mom, mom, mom. The three letter word which is a noun though it feels like a verb is also a name that can evoke huge emotions for a person. If you have a bad experience with a mom it can last a lifetime. You may spend years in therapy because of it. I am sure that you wonder why you were made to suffer at the hands of such a horrible mom? Perhaps it was so you could be a phenomenal mom.
There is a reason that the words all carry the same type of spelling because we all come from what has been passed down to us. If you look back at your mom and grandma most of the time, they each got better at being a mother as it got handed down. People in general are always trying to improve mothering. There is a giant baby industry that just makes products to make mothering easier. Each generation of a family the mothering gets better and better. Us babies, learned from our mom's mistakes and paid extra attention when she made the right decisions. Therefore, after quite a few generations we will all be phenomenal parents. What you put into your child now you are also putting into your grandchildren. Imagine if you did a phenomenal job as a mother, and imagine that your child did an even better job then you on your grandchildren. Imagine what a wonderful world this would be if we all mothered our children the way we know in our hearts we need to. So come on moms give yourself a hand for all that you do. You are a phenomenal mom, you are doing your very best for the children you love and that deserves a big THANK YOU!
On a side note, just in time for mother's day, I would like to give an extra special shout out to the universe to thank the two generations of phenomenal mothering that I have been fortunate to have in my life to help make me be always at my best. To my mom and my grandma, though you are both not physically with me now, I know you are here in our lives everyday.
I know the words you spoke, I hear them once in a while. I remember the songs you sung, I hum them every now and then. Those yummy recipes you both left, I make as often as I can. The lessons you taught me, I try to remember as much as possible. The actions you did that were always the right choices I try to always pick in my life. Because of both of you I am a better mother and I could not be more proud at the mother I have turned out to be. I love and miss you both! Happy Mother's Day.
A Very Special Happy Mother's Day to all my readers who are moms. Thank you so very much for all that you do!