Friday, August 10, 2012
His Own Room
We finally did it! Xavier now sleeps all night in his own room. It took a little while to get there, mostly for us to be alright with not constantly looking at him in the night then for him to sleep away from us. Quite frankly I think he sleeps better away from us. I'm pretty sure we were always keeping him awake or waking him up. It was the first really big step of realizing that my baby boy is growing up. ( I know he is only 4 months old ) However, it is the first step of many when you finally realize that your heart will be tugged on. I am so incredibly happy and proud that my son has accomplished a great milestone but at the same time I am sad to see him grow so fast. He now mainly sleeps 6 to 7 hours at night and it is definitely a wonderful thing for us!
We had a cradle in our room since he was born. It was a wonderful thing. Not too big, not too small. It rocked back and forth and had wheels so we could each wheel it to either side of the bed that we wanted. I might have let him stay even longer in the cradle in our room, except I noticed he is getting too big for it. His arms outstretched go through the slats, so I thought I probably need to transition him to his crib in his room which is way across our living on the other side of the house from our room. (No, it's not that far, but feels that far). We transitioned slowly. First we started with the cradle in Xavier's room and would put him to sleep in there. The first night we did this our intention was to leave him all night but I cried and was not ready to leave him in there all night without seeing him. He was only about 3 months old. However, Nick liked him in his room at least until we went to bed so he could use our bedroom and bathroom without disturbing him. So we decided that we would move Xavier into our room once we went to bed. Xavier was still waking up every 3 or 4 hours so it was for our convenience as well. It was a crazy thing to do!
Every night around 11pm when I went to bed, I turned off all the lights in the living and kitchen and our room and pushed Xavier in his cradle across the living room into our room, hoping not to wake him. We affectionately called this "The Parade of His Royal Highness". Xavier is a good sleeper, you can usually make a good amount of noise, but lights drive him nuts. I am probably the only mom who's kids hates nightlights or lights of any kind while sleeping. So that is why all lights had to be off during the transition. Finally, the other night my husband offered to pull an all nighter with Xavier for me. That means he has baby duty all night. Currently we do shifts. I have midnight until 5 am and Nick has 5 am until 9 am (yes he has less hours, but Xavier is usually awake most of that shift). This way if Xavier wakes up at all during your shift you are responsible for him without waking the other. If nothing else you can plan on a good solid 4 or 5 hours of sleep. It has worked great for us. I can't imagine doing it any other way. So while Nick was pulling the all nighter, he left Xavier in his room and just listened out on the baby monitor. Xavier slept for 7 hours straight without waking up. So needless to say what I had thought; that we might be waking him up in the night was correct so with a heavy heart the next night I left him in his room and put the baby monitor in clear sight and jumped the second I heard him cry. ( I did not jump at coos as he is a sleep talker and I am aware of that from having him in our room ).
The past few days have been getting better and better with a solid 7 hours of uninterrupted sleep for Xavier. No, not for me I still pump once at night, but I can do that half asleep and without having a baby to take care of as well, I have streamlined it to a quick 15 minutes and it's back to sleep I go. I do wish we had a better baby monitor. We skimped on that, because our rooms are not that far apart. The sound works great. However, it buzzes a lot due to "interference" (thats what Nick says it is anyway) and I do wish I could see him without going into his room. We have a way on our television but in the middle of the night I don't want to turn the television on. A little handheld monitor that does not buzz and shows my baby breathing would be nice. Anyone have any good recommendations?